Questioning Your Marriage During the Holidays? The Myth of Keeping It All Together Is Breaking You
You can feel it, can’t you? Or is it just me? (lol I KNOW it’s not just me!)
That slow tightening in your chest as October rolls in.
The shift from, end of summer, squeeze-every-drop-of-joy-in chaos, to the holiday pressure cooker.
The calendar starts to fill. The expectations rise. The to-do list doubles.
And you’re still supposed to juggle work, family, emotions, and the cracks inside your marriage without letting anyone see you crumble.
Because gawd forbid anyone thinks you don’t have it all together.
We’ve been taught since we were girls that “holding it all together” is the gold standard of womanhood.
Keep the peace. Keep smiling. Keep showing up. Keep doing all the things, even if you’re running on fumes.
But here’s the truth most women in midlife only whisper to themselves in the dark:
Keeping it all together is freaking exhausting and you’re not sure how much longer you can do it.
Keeping It All Together is Quietly Breaking You
Every, “I’m fine” you utter chips away at you.
Every, “Don’t worry about it, I’m okay” hides what you’re really feeling behind your eyes.
Every time you swallow your voice and your needs to avoid rocking the boat, takes you further and further away from yourself.
And if you’re in an unhappy marriage, the weight of the disconnect gets heavier this time of year.
The holidays amplify everything.
The pretending. The smiling for photos. The ache of knowing the joy you’re supposed to feel just isn’t there.
It’s not that something is wrong with you.
It’s that your already overflowing to-do list, compiled with the emotional labor of holding together your broken heart, is unsustainable.
The truth is, women were set up for failure with the societal expectation of carrying it all.
Breaking Down Is The Start of Your Breakthrough
I know this is true because I’ve been there.
What if the cracks that are starting to deepen don’t mean failure, but your voice trying to find its way out?
What if admitting you’re on the verge of falling apart is exactly what will lead you to deeper peace?
You don’t need to fake your way through another holiday season.
You don’t need to fake your way through another anything…another conversation, another orgasm, another relationship.
And you certainly don’t need to hold the world together while you’re falling apart inside. (I know you think you do but I’m here to tell you, you don’t.)
You need tools. Boundaries. Permission to not be okay. And a plan for how to make it through the holidays with your peace intact.
Your Survival Plan Starts Now
Now hear me when I say, if you are questioning your marriage, I AM NOT recommending you make any big decisions this time of year.
What I AM recommending is you take care of YOU.
Before the holidays hit full force, before the curated Christmas cards, the guilt, and the "keep it together for the kids” feelings start flooding in, you deserve some support that helps you feel whole.
That’s exactly why I created the Holiday Divorce Survival Toolkit for midlife women navigating an unhappy marriage or divorce.
Because I’ve been there, trying to mask my grief, emotional exhaustion, and discontent on the inside, while scraping together holiday magic on the outside.
This toolkit is a personalized experience designed for women who are grappling with painful emotions and need a lifeline to hold them up.
Inside, you’ll get:
A step-by-step plan to navigate holiday triggers and emotional landmines
A boundary script so you can say “no” without guilt (or whatever else you need to say)
Journal prompts to process your emotions and the truth you’ve been suppressing
A pep talk audio from me. The voice you’ll need when it all just feels too freaking heavy
After our initial call, you’ll get 4 emails, one each week, so you don’t have the pressure of a timeline and can go step by step. (Easy Peasy)
I created the Holiday Divorce Survival Toolkit because I know exactly what it feels like to be drowning in loneliness while still pretending to be “fine.”
If you’re a midlife woman who is in an unhappy marriage or navigating divorce, and you don’t want to white knuckle your way through another holiday season, let’s get on a free call. Click the link.
Early sign-ups are open now. Don’t wait until the loneliness gets heavier.
Build your holiday survival plan now.
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