Whether you’re thinking about leaving, in the thick of it, or rebuilding after the dust has settled…Start here
From the outside, your marriage may look perfectly fine. But inside, you know something has changed and you can’t keep pretending you don’t.
Maybe you feel alone in a marriage you’ve spent decades trying to make work. Maybe your husband is a good man, which somehow makes wanting more feel even harder to explain. Maybe you’ve already said “I want a divorce” and now you’re drowning in guilt, fear, and everyone else’s reactions.
Or maybe you’ve left and are trying to recognize yourself on the other side.
Wherever you are, you do not need to have your whole future figured out before you ask for support. This is a place to say the hard things out loud, hear your own truth again, and decide what feels right for you next.
What I Help With…
I’m not here to tell you whether to stay married or get divorced. That decision belongs to you.
I’m here to help you separate your truth from the guilt, fear, pressure, and opinions that make it so difficult to hear yourself.
I support women who are:
• quietly questioning whether they can stay
• preparing to say “I want a divorce”
• overwhelmed by the emotional chaos after saying it
• in the thick of separation or divorce
• rebuilding a life and identity that finally feel like their own
We don’t rush decisions or force outcomes. We slow down the noise, tell the truth about what is actually happening, and focus on the next step in front of you.
Whatever you decide, I’m here to support you as you get clear, get confident, and get courageous about what comes next.
If you’re wondering what to do next…
You don’t have to decide anything today.
You don’t have to know what “choosing yourself” looks like yet.
From here, you can just take one small step, whichever feels right for you.
Start By Listening and Reflecting…
If you want to ease into this and just hear a supportive voice, my writing is a good place to begin. Many women start here by reading, reflecting, and quietly seeing where they recognize themselves in the words and stories.
👉 Click here to head to my Substack, My Midlife Divorce Diary or my Blog.
Get a risk free taste of my vibe and what it’s like to work with me…
👉 Check out my Free Resources Here.
Or Talk It Through With Me…
If you’re feeling stuck and want help sorting through what’s coming up, you can book a free conversation with me. This is a no strings attached call to get clarity, ask questions, figure out a small, and see what support might look like.
A Final Note…
You do not have to make a life-altering decision today.
But you also don’t have to keep dismissing the voice inside you that says something needs to change.
The next step may be a conversation, a boundary, a plan, a pause, or finally admitting what you want.
You are allowed to take this one step at a time, and you don’t have to take it alone.
Hi, I’m Karen Shatafian
Divorce Coach
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Life Coach for Women Over 40
What do I value?
Authenticity
Self Love
Courage
Equity &
Connection
“ I would absolutely recommend working with Karen, especially if a person wants to learn about themselves on a deeper level. The sessions (with Karen) have resulted in one of the best experiences for self growth and understanding. Support was always there anytime if needed, not just during our coaching calls.
Karen says, “You are the one with all the answers, I am just here to guide you and give you the tools to find those answers.” Working with Karen was one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. I would recommend Karen for anyone looking for self improvement, understanding, growth, life purpose, self love and respect, and finding focus and direction.
Karen has a special way of making a person feel comfortable which helps in opening up. I appreciated the toolbox she gave me (meditation, gratitude practice, journaling, self love, etc.) and giving so many different aspects to sort things out. Small changes make a huge difference.”
Meet Karen:
Dream chaser, truth talker, and comfort zone escapee
I’m a divorce coach, life coach for women over 40, and retreat facilitator who has an affinity for surfing and rescue dogs.
I take coffee drinking very seriously.
I love a well-timed F-Bomb, traveling, and people who aren’t afraid to get a little dirty while designing a life they’re in love with.
I’m currently building my dream life that I’ve manifested into reality, complete with 3 acres, 3 dogs, 10 chickens and the love of my life.
But, it took me years to create this life I’m in love with. I had to unravel a lot of bullsh*t and my own limiting beliefs that kept me spinning my wheels.
I had to learn tools and get support so I could create a life that really turned me the fuck on.
I had been letting my dreams, desires, passions and marriage collect dust for years.
As a (recovering) people pleaser, I let the fear of what others might say or think keep me stuck.
I became anxious.
It took years to find my voice.
I lost so much time, I don’t want that for you!
That’s why I’ve created my own method (utilizing my BA in Psychology, MS in Counseling, and coaching tools) to help you CHOOSE YOU.
I work with motivated women just like you that want to create their lives, and their marriages, not settle for them.
When we work together, I'll be your sounding board and biggest hype-woman.
I’ll provide unconditional support and safety while you dig deep to discover what is keeping you from being honest with yourself. I will help you trust your next step.
I’ll teach you tools to get clear on what you really want, build your confidence, and handle all the big feelings that come along with making a big change.
Life is short. There are no guarantees.
The time to be happy is now.
Let's create a life that curls your toes!