Midlife Magic & Mayhem: What Haunts Us, Heals Us, and Sets Us Free

It’s that time of year again, my favorite holiday… spooky season. 🎃

Since I don’t get trick-or-treaters anymore and have officially retired my annual Halloween party, I decided to stir up some magic in a new way.

This month, I’m bringing the spirit of the season to my Instagram stories with a series called Midlife Magic & Mayhem. Fifteen days of midlife truths, reclamation vibes, and a little Halloween whimsy. (You can check it out here.)

Because while Halloween might bring the costumes and candy, for women in midlife, the real hauntings hit closer to home.

Witch energy. The ghosts of what was. Haunted by conditioning.

But the truth is, what haunts us can only torment us if we let it.

And maybe, just maybe, this is the season we stop running from those ghosts and start listening to them, because buried in every ghost of our past, is a hint of power waiting for you to claim it.

Witch Energy

Every woman I know has a bit of witch energy in her.

Not the broomstick-and-potions kind (though, let’s be honest, I’m here for those badass witches, too).

I’m talking about the intuitive, powerful, knowing kind of witches (and really, that could be all of us.)

The kind of intuitive witch that sees what others ignore.

That listens when the hair on her neck stands up.

That can feel when something’s off in her life, her marriage, her friendships, long before she can explain it.

For years, we’ve been told to silence that voice. Our intuition.

To stay grateful, to keep the peace, to be low maintenance no matter what our inner knowing says.

But here’s the truth: that inner witch, the one who keeps whispering “this isn’t it,” there’s nothing wrong with her.

She’s your compass.

Your magic.

Your reminder that you were never meant to stay small.

When you finally start listening to her, everything shifts.

You stop asking for permission and start trusting your own knowing.

That’s witch energy.

And that’s the moment a woman remembers exactly who the fuck she is.

The Ghosts We Carry Aren’t Always People

Some ghosts don’t rattle chains, they whisper in your head and haunt your heart.

They sound like, “Don’t rock the boat.”

“Who are you to want more?”

“Just be grateful.”

They’re the past versions of you who kept everyone else comfortable.

The woman who smiled through her sacrifice.

The one who stayed quiet to keep the peace.

The one who swallowed her own needs just to be loved.

The ghosts of who we were taught to be.

The good wife. The peacekeeper. The woman who held it all together while quietly falling apart.

This season, I’m inviting you to do something.

Say goodbye to the versions of you that just don’t serve you anymore. And…Bury the Bullshit.

The guilt. The good-girl rules. The stories that kept you small.

Give them a proper good bye and move on with your magic intact.

When you finally stop tending the graves of old stories,

you create space for something new, something vibrant and alive, to grow.

Haunted by Conditioning

We’ve been conditioned to believe that “good women” don’t quit.

That a good wife stays, no matter how lonely she feels.

That a good mom sacrifices not matter how exhausted she is inside.

That a strong woman sucks it up, stays grateful, and never lets it show.

We were taught that holding it all together was a badge of honor.

That exhaustion was normal.

That wanting more was selfish.

But that’s not devotion. That’s depletion.

And we didn’t create it, we inherited it.

Our mothers and grandmothers carried that script before us.

They did what they had to do to survive in a world that gave them limited choices.

They held families together, swallowed their truths, and hoped their daughters might one day have more freedom than they did.

And here we are, the generation with a choice.

So this isn’t about blaming them.

It’s about honoring them by breaking the pattern.

It’s about saying, “Thank you for getting us here, but we’re not repeating this part of the story.”

Here’s your permission slip to rewrite the story.

the expectations that keep you small.

the invisible labor that’s gone unrecognized.

the self-betrayal disguised as love and duty.

the guilt, the silence, the “shoulds.”

This is where we:

honor what came before us,

rewrite the script that was given to us,

and finally be the lead character in our own damn story.

Spells of Divorce & Reclamation

It’s that moment when you stop pretending you’re okay with ‘fine.’

When you finally realize you don’t have to keep proving or fixing or managing everything to be worthy of peace.

You just have to stop betraying yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.

Every boundary you set, every truth you speak, every tear you finally let fall, that’s not you breaking down.

That’s you reclaiming parts of yourself.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

You don’t have to make it sound prettier than it is.

You don’t have to justify why you’re done pretending.

Because this, this messy, beautiful, terrifying chapter, is where you start remembering who you are.

Where you begin to build something that feels like you.

And here’s the thing, friend:

The stuff that haunts you?

It’s usually the same stuff that’s trying to heal you.

You just have to be brave enough to look it in the eye and say,

“I’m done living small. I’m ready to choose myself now.”

The Magic in What Comes Next

When I reflect on my favorite season, and all the witchy energy, the ghosts of the past, the scary moments, and the beautiful mess of becoming, what I know for sure is this: you are not alone in any of it.

Every woman I know is out here trying to make sense of her next chapter, learning to listen to herself again, to trust her inner knowing, and to build a life that actually feels like hers. That’s the real magic.

So whether you’re walking through a divorce, feeling the cracks in a marriage, or just ready to choose you, you belong here.

And if the holidays stir it all up (because they usually do, believe me, I know), I created something to help you breathe again:

The Holiday Divorce Survival Toolkit. It’s your soft place to land when the season feels heavy.

Inside, you’ll get:
4 personalized emails filled with truth, rituals, and reminders that you’re doing better than you think.
A ready-to-use boundary script (no guilt required).
Journal prompts to keep you grounded.
An audio pep talk for the moments you start to doubt yourself.

Because this year, you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through the holidays. You get to reclaim them.

👉 Grab your Holiday Divorce Survival Toolkit and let this be the season you choose peace, magic, and yourself.

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