Light the F*cking Candle 🔥

A 3-Day Pleasure Reset for Women Over 40 Who Are Done Waiting

Not a challenge.
Not a new and improved to-do list.

This is your wake-up call and your full-body permission slip to stop putting off pleasure.

To stop saving your joy for later.

Because, truth be told, later might never come.

And you? YOU are the special occasion.

It’s time to reconnect with your joy, pleasure, and your inner fire!

You don’t need a new life.

You need a way back to yourself.

This is a 3-day guided reset for the woman who’s holding everything, and finally ready to hold herself, too.

Think of it as a 3-day anti-challenge, challenge. :)

For 3 days, we’re flipping the script on guilt, shame, and denying ourselves.

You’ll reconnect with your pleasure, your desires, and your power,
UNAPOLOGETICALLY!.

Why “Light the F*cking Candle?”

I bought a beautiful $60 candle months ago.

Gorgeous. Fancy. Something I never splurge on.

And it just sat there.

Every day I’d walk past it, telling myself I’d light it when we had an event or company over.

A reason. A moment that “deserved it.”

But here’s the truth I had to face:

Deep down, I didn’t believe I was a good enough reason.

I was waiting to feel worthy of that joy.

And right then and there I realized, I am done with that version of me.

So I lit the f*cking candle.

And it sparked this reclamation.

This reset. This rebellion.

Because you deserve to light the f*cking candle too. Whatever your “candle” is for you.

All those things you’ve been denying yourself or putting off until the “right” time.

Well, it’s time.

Not next month. Not next year.

NOW.

❤️ Why It Matters

Midlife doesn’t come with more space.

It often comes with more responsibility, more grief, and so much more noise.

But underneath the chaos, you still matter.

You still get to have needs.

And you don’t have to wait until everything is handled to come back to yourself.

This challenge is born from my own midlife truth: When you

prioritize your joy, in big or small ways, you come alive. And

it changes everything around you.

This is about indulgence,  permission, and a chance to finally prioritize what YOU want.

A reconnection to your desires, your joy, your fire inside.

You don’t need a new life. You need to remember who the f*ck

you are. Let’s learn how to restore ourselves in the middle of the chaos.

If you're doing all the things, and still craving something more, this is for you.

Let’s take the first step together.

You’ve Waited Long Enough

Have you been waiting for the “right” moment?

Maybe it’s the $60 candle you never lit.

The silky robe with the tags still on.

The vacation you didn’t take.

The dream you keep putting on pause.

Here’s the truth.

Women have been trained to delay our own joy until everything and everyone else is taken care of.

What if that’s what is keeping you burnt out and stagnant?

What if your joy isn’t a reward. It’s the guide map?

Caring for aging parents.

Supporting grown kids who still need you.

Managing a shifting body, a changing identity, and a life that rarely slows down.

Grieving things no one sees.

Holding space for everyone else, while your own needs stay buried.

Somewhere along the way, you got lost in the shuffle.

Joy got edged out by responsibility.

Pleasure felt like a luxury.

Your inner fire turned into a flicker.

This is your invitation to come back to you.

Like so many midlife women, you’ve been conditioned to

believe that your worth comes from self-sacrifice.

That taking care of everyone else is your identity.

That rest, joy, fun, and support are for later, after everyone

else is okay.

This pleasure reset is a disruption to that.

It’s Time to Light the F*cking Candle.

This is the self-indulgence you are so worthy of.

Because your joy shouldn’t live in a drawer, a sealed box, or be kept waiting for someday.

You don’t have to earn it.

You just have to want it.

Let’s Get Lit. ;)
- Karen